Get a Grip on Being a Husband-Part2

Getting a Grip on Your Marriage-part 2

Ephesians 5:22-33    February 8, 2004

Seth Gatchell

A Husband’s Tender Love

Many men are aware of their need to make money, pay bills, even help out at home. But the man who is the cream of the crop knows the bigger game is meeting his wife’s                      needs.

A Tender Husband…

1. Helps Her Feel    Special    .

Ephesians 5:29 After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church.

Feeds –

Cares –

 

A Tender Husband…

1. Helps Her Feel    Special    .

Ephesians 5:29 After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church.

Feeds –

Cares –

The Language of Care is Feelings.

Men Communicate

-Facts

-Events

-History

 

-Tends to be direct  

 

-Questions “need” answers.

 

 

Women Communicate

-How you feel about facts, events, history.

 

 

 

-Tends to be indirect.

 

-Questions can be just thinking out loud or expressing emotion

The Language of Care is Feelings.

-Men Communicate

Problems “need” solutions.

 

 

-Wants to share his bed.

Women Communicate

-Problems are sometimes dealt with by verbal processing.

 

 

-Wants to share her heart.

 

-Please listen to how I feel.

-Please understand my feelings.

A Tender Husband…

1. Helps Her Feel Special.

The Language of Feeling is

Primarily Non -Verbals !

-   Attitude

-   Tone of voice

-   Facial expression, gestures, focus, etc.

A Tender Husband…

1. Helps Her Feel Special.

The Language of Feeling is Primarily Non -Verbals !

A Tender Husband…

2. Understands    Her.

1 Peter 3:7 Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.

Be considerate -

A Tender Husband…

2. Understands Her.

Proverbs 18:2 A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions.

A Tender Husband…

2. Understands Her.

Lesson: A husband that will not learn to communicate emotional interest that his wife can see and feel will have a wife that rarely feels loved .

A Tender Husband…

3. Delights   in Her.

Proverbs 5:18-19 May your fountain be blessed and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer—may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love.